Connecting these dots changed my life. — Humans are conditioned to feel they need to put things in boxes. In caveman times, not knowing could mean death so, back then, we had a point. Now, not so much. In fact, this desire to box everything often causes more harm than good. …

There’s a right time to meet someone but there’s also, definitely, a wrong time. And, that is when you haven’t allowed enough time to heal from the last relationship. Fear of abandonment is a very common reason for self-sabotage and other behaviours that don’t serve us. Heartbreak causes us to…

An invoice arrived yesterday and, due to circumstances outside of my control, it was for an amount rather larger than I was expecting. A spider helped calm me down. — I read and reread the invoice and thought, ‘can this be right?’ as I felt the acidic pang of the primal ‘fight, flight, or freeze’ feeling rush through my body. A feeling society had conditioned me to deem as unpleasant. …

Change requires us to admit a few things to ourselves… — Make sustainable change Part 2/3 — acknowledging the ego In PART 1 of this Make sustainable change series we discovered a method for figuring out what you love to do — what a prime driver is. In this article, PART 2, we will discuss how your ego is preventing your growth and how individual egos are perhaps the main…

Love what you do. The starting point of sustainable change. — Make sustainable change Part 1/3 — discovering prime drivers. This is a series of three articles on how to make difficult, but vital, changes and how to lay a foundation to sustain them personally and in business. Drawing from my experience with anxiety, as well as being an innovation consultant, I uncovered: Part 1: A method for discovering what…

The more you know, the more you can define things, and that’s not necessarily a good thing… — My name is Adam, I’m a man, I’m straight, I’m 40, my main love language is ‘acts of service’, my attachment style is primarily secure, my purpose can be summarised as ‘realising potential’, camaraderie is extremely important to me and my anxiety triggers are ‘control’ and ‘fear of abandonment’… The…

A formula for Sustainable Change and collectively sorting it out. — Make sustainable change Part 3/3 — distributed leadership In PART 2 of this Make sustainable change series we discussed the ego and how to prevent it from getting in the way of change. In PART 1 we discovered prime drivers and what we love to do. …

Are you looking to find love? It seems we can’t find it, it’ll find us… when two people are both ready. And if we are in a rangover, we are not ready. — Should we stop looking for love? In a sense, yes. But looking, being open to, and ready for it are different things. …