It’s useful to have a ‘go-to’ routine… — I’m writing this whilst sitting in the residue or buzz of feeling slightly hard done by. I received a message this morning which, in all honesty, wasn’t fair. It hurt and I felt slightly triggered. …

The balance between insisting and resisting… — Having just come out of a session with a client where we were discussing practical uses of slowing down and in essence living “action through in action” or “Let it be” as Paul McCartney wrote it confirmed it’s easier to say than do, but with practise it gets easier. A…

Love paid out inconsistently is very addictive indeed… — I’m not dating a slot machine anymore. And, if I’m honest, there are moments in my relationship that feel “dull”. I mean that in the most complimentary way. How is dull a compliment? I hear you cry. Because it’s not spikey or sharp, it’s safe. Meaning I feel accepted in…

It’ll do anything to keep you alive, including preventing you from living… — Our egos are wily. They are very clever and cunning. The reason for this is because they are trying to protect us or, better put, they are repeating a programme learned at a point in our formative years. At a time when we didn’t have the emotional ability to deal…

It finally landed. The second stage of learning after which one’s life will never be the same again. — Like a snake shedding its shiny-tight skin, a feeling of freedom is created, one you didn’t know was possible but could somehow feel you’d been waiting for. The first stage of learning is awareness (mind), and the second stage is knowing (body). Knowing is the catalyst for being (soul). We…

One’s just got to learn to be able to wait… — Imagine dropping a tightly filled water balloon from a great height and it hitting the floor. Think of the force of the initial bursting and the water shooting off in all directions. What might it feel like if the explosion was inside your body? That’s what happened to me this…

I’ve just experienced what I now call, a growth week. In the middle of it, I felt lost. “At sea” as I’ve labelled it in the past. — Like lots of people, I’ve got a fair few things going on; work and relationship stuff mainly. Working for oneself, as awesome as it is a lot of the time (I mean, I’m sitting typing this in the sunshine and can choose exactly what I want to do) in moments…

In a vulnerebellious moment — when you feel empowered to act in spite of the resistance in your body — I said “Hello” to someone I thought I recognised and magic unfolded… — “I think he’s off the TV” I said to myself which was immediately followed by, “Why would he want to talk to you? He’s going to think you’re only speaking to him because he’s famous.” The truth was that I was about to run a men’s circle at a festival…

The song, “Sorry is the Hardest Word,” says it all. Turns out, for me, it is/was. — In a moment of playfulness, I brushed my partner’s hair and it was the trigger that flipped us into, what Sue Johnson calls, a “Demon dialogue”. A conversation where the thing that happened isn’t the thing that’s causing the upset. Both people have actually been triggered and you are essentially…